Guest blog from a village teapot…..

I love WordPress.  I love the connections it helps me to make while stumbling around focused on key words as a guide.  One lovely sunny day I stumbled upon The Village Teapot blog written by a relatively new blogger – Michelle.  Michelle and I share something as we are both home schooling mums but when I explored her blog I could see many more connections.  Describing herself as ‘young at heart, ancient in thinking’ is a wonderful way to look and interact with the world.  I see wisdom in her words and I check back often to see what she has added since my last visit.  Readers of Scottish island mum are incredibly loyal and it is not often I invite another blogger to post here……so you will know I am very impressed.  Please support Michelle.  xx

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Remembering Solitude

 “We live in a very tense society. We are pulled apart… and we all need to learn how to pull ourselves together…. I think that at least part of the answer lies in solitude.” ~Helen Hayes

Post written by Michelle L Morgan

On a typical daily basis, we spend more time faffing around with social media, than taking some quality time to reconnect with ourselves. It’s not rocket science really, it doesn’t take much effort to organise some quiet time to unwind, revitalise, check in with our mental well being, and clear away unwanted inner debris.

Whilst it is wonderful that we have a wide variety of ways to connect to the outside world, it’s also sometimes a hindrance when you want to switch off. If you really try to disconnect for a while, you find yourself running from room to room, finding more and more technology buzzing away. Just how many mobile phones, laptops, computers do we need, in order to stay tuned in…and for how long?

“The question is, are we routinely using the computer and television to find alone time without really realizing our unfulfilled alone need? Or are we becoming incapable of living in the moment except in technological time-outs like the computer”~ Ester Buchholz

I’m sure social media can live without your ‘like’ clicks for 20 minutes of bliss in a warm bubble bath.

I find that I can disconnect quite easily, be it with a favourite book or magazine, whilst sipping tea. Writing an all important chapter of a novel, or an article, just scribbling away, completely unaware of my surroundings for a while. Gardening is a passion of mine and although I’m a novice, I can lose myself in a session of weeding away quite happily. Or taking a long stroll over the hills, feeling the wind on my face, for me there’s nothing like taking yourself off into nature, finding a quiet secluded spot with shade, sitting and just being.

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The way in which we devote so much time to being connected, is the way in we should treat ourselves to solitude too. Scheduling ‘me time’ is a huge necessity and a beneficial one.

 

Switch Off

“Solitude is a form of meditation.” ~Terri Guillemets

The art of solitude is a tough one to master at first. We find the time, we find the space and we settle down, expecting to instantly switch off and relax. But no, it’s not that easy.

There’s that inner voice in your head to quieten down, asking all the questions about the here and the now. “Why didn’t I do that?” “When will this happen?” “How will I find the time for this?” We can’t help thinking we may be missing something happening right now, do we check in? The urge lingers for a while.

Once all the mental trash has been bagged and binned, we realise that it’s so pointless to worry about things that won’t change within the next hour. Life really is all that simple, if we just let it go for a while. It’s a scary thought, but a truly profound moment. You realise that the beauty surrounding you, is somehow over looked and not entirely appreciated.

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It must be like this for the Buddha’s. Seeing life through rose tinted glasses, appreciating life’s small pleasures. The more we soak up this blissful feeling, the more we can improve our lives; we can see the things that clutter it up and tone them down a bit.

“We visit others as a matter of social obligation. How long has it been since we have visited with ourselves?” ~Morris Adler

We realise just how much of our ‘free time’ is spent watching or reading other people’s lives on social media, whilst our own time flies by in the chair.

I’m no social media phobic, not by far. Technology is brilliant for many reasons. It has helped improved lives and saved lives. Many a celebrated writer has been made using technology. But there really is a time and a place for it. I’m sure it’s certainly not every 10/15 minutes a day.

Just imagine how de-stressed you could be if you took the time to attend to your own rest, your relaxation, your quality time.

Imagine the tasks you could complete if you switch off from technology for 20 minutes a day.

A few examples:

Read a few more chapters of a good book,

Learn a new language,

Take up tap dancing, Yoga or Pilates,

Take a long soak in a bubble bath,

Bake a cake; prepare a meal ahead of time, to freeze,

Pot some window plants,

Make something crafty or arty,

Watch a favourite old movie,

Carry out some tasks in the garden,

Paint a picture, or even a wall,

Write a letter (support the Royal Mail).

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The possibilities are endless. You really could re-invent yourself in that short time each day, or re-kindle a love affair with an old hobby. Life could be enriched with small pleasures that you once sacrificed for social media, mobile phones and constant unnecessary interruptions.

After your time of precious solitude, you may appreciate your surroundings more than you previously did. Whether you want to log back in after your golden time, is up to you. Did they really miss you that much? Is social media crying out to know what you’re cooking for tea?

No, didn’t think so. Now…back to finish that chapter. But first, I must stick the kettle on.

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Page Attributes – http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199802/the-call-solitude

http://www.quotegarden.com/solitude.html

 

 

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